In every household, there are characters naturally imbibed in the children from the parents, but it’s not necessarily spoken with words, it is just the normal way a household should be, and that has been part of the children since they were born. These traits are commonly enforced by the parents, but sometimes, between siblings too, especially when the first child is much older than the siblings with a wide age gap.

These things have become part of us, that we don’t even know we possess some of these traits or characters, we just find ourselves living with it.

Some Of These Unspoken Household Rules

• In every household, we learn how to tolerate people no matter how much they tend to piss us off, just because we grow up with so many annoying siblings. “Nobody can piss you off as much as your siblings do”, that is the quote, now, imagine being able to tolerate that with your siblings, knowingly or unknowingly, you have the trait of tolerance in you, no matter what they throw at you, you learn how to tolerate.
• We were taught to always be composed and stick with each other when there is a stranger or a visitor, this is another unspoken rule where they don’t necessarily say it, but we know to always be composed, and no matter what differences we had as siblings, it had to die immediately a stranger is involved, and we have to stick together and be one. Siblings may fight all they want inside, but it stays inside, the moment an outsider tries to mock or bully them, they stand together.
• We all know how mothers don’t always have to speak to us before we understand the information she is trying to pass, that itself is a very special trait, the ability to “read the room”, you don’t need anyone to tell you before you know the mood of a person or a place, and that makes a person more composed and well-presented in a balanced society.
• Being able to do one’s chores without anyone reminding them every single time is a household skill that shapes how disciplined and accountable you are in the future. No one tells you to wash your dishes after eating, fill up your jug, sweep the corners of your room, lay your own bed etcetera. And being disciplined enough to do that, is a very crucial trait in becoming an important member of a society.
• There is something called “the rule of firsts” and it’s in every household, there is always that one person that does some particular chores, it doesn’t change (e.g. who turns on the TV, who gets the first piece of meat, who gets to use something first). These may be arranged with a certain hierarchy, it may be due to seniority, but what it teaches us is patience, fairness and the power of negotiation.

We all grew up with these unspoken rules, but what these things shape us to become in the future is what matters, and as much as it helps the children, it also helps the parents or guardians in decision making, and to become better people generally.